What If Your Life Isn’t Wrong…It’s Just Not YOURS?
Six sessions to discover a different way to interact with your own life.
You may not know me, but I’ve always been fascinated by people—why we make the choices we make, how we become who we are, and why so many of us can build lives that look perfectly good on paper and still find ourselves wondering...
Why doesn't this feel right?
What I've become most curious about is this:
How much of the life we create is based on what we actually want-and how much is based on what we've learned we're supposed to want?
That's the idea behind
What If Your Life Isn't Wrong...It's Just Not YOURS?
So...what exactly is this?
It's a three-month, six session, one-on-one process for people who want to take an honest look at their lives—what matters to them, what is and isn't working, the beliefs and expectations underneath their choices, and what might become possible if they gave themselves permission to question some of the rules they've been living by.
I don't believe there’s a right way to live life.
I believe there’s a way that's right for YOU to live YOUR life—and you're the only person who can discover what that is.
This isn't about me telling you what your life should look like.
It's not about fixing what's “wrong.”
And it's not about blowing up your life in the name of authenticity.
It's about getting curious.
Because sometimes, the thing that needs to change first isn’t your life.
It’s the way you’re looking at it.
Your perspective is the lens through which you experience your life. It shapes what you notice, what you believe is possible, and the meaning you give to what happens to you.
And from there, it influences everything that comes next.
A shift in perspective doesn’t mean everything changes overnight.
But once you begin to see something differently, you think differently, feel differently, speak differently, and eventually make different choices.
You don’t have to change your whole life to begin changing your relationship with it.
Sometimes the first step is simply asking:
What if there’s another way to see this?
And that brings us right back to the heart of all of this. If the question is:
“What if your life isn’t wrong…it’s just not yours?”…
…then my answer lies in one of my favorite acronyms…
DGAF
In this case, DGAF isn’t about not caring.
It’s about caring on purpose.
We all have a finite amount of time, attention, and energy.
DGAF is about deciding for yourself what deserves yours.
Artwork by Annie Rob
It starts with D.
DGAF.
Not steps. A philosophy we keep coming back to.
DISCERN
What actually matters to you? What feels true, meaningful, or important — and what might you be carrying simply because somewhere along the way you learned that you should?
What is yours?
GET HONEST
What do you notice when you really look? How close is what you’re living to what actually matters to you? Where might your life be in contrast to what you actually want? What are you doing because you want to, and what are you doing because you've never really considered another possibility?
What is your current truth?
ADJUST
Once you can see more clearly what matters to you and what is true about the life you're living right now, you get to decide what — if anything — you want to do differently.
What might need to adjust for your life to reflect more of what truly matters to you? Is there a circumstance that doesn't reflect what you actually want? Or maybe it's not the circumstance at all — maybe it's the way you've been thinking about it.
What, if anything, needs to shift?
FORWARD, FOR NOW
You don't need to have the rest of your life figured out. You only need to decide what feels right from where you are now.
Maybe that means making a change. Maybe it means trying something and seeing how it feels. Maybe it means staying exactly where you are — but doing so with greater intention because now you know you're choosing it.
What feels more right for now?
ABOUT ME
Hi, I’m Cathy.
My path to this work has been anything but linear.
Which in retrospect makes perfect sense.
I earned a Master's Degree in Psychology with every intention of becoming a therapist.
But when I finished graduate school, I realized something:
I loved psychology.
I was endlessly fascinated by people.
But being a therapist just didn't feel like the right box for me.
So I started asking a different question:
What is it about this that I actually love?
The answer was people.
Their stories. Why we do what we do. What shapes us. What makes us different.
I eventually found my way into television.
I spent much of my career developing stories, working with fascinating people, chasing big ideas, and exploring human behavior through an entirely different lens.
Looking back, I can see that leaving the path I'd planned and following what actually interested me was an early version of the work I'm doing today.
And my life since then hasn't exactly followed a straight line either.
Professional. Wife. Mother. Friend. Seeker. Achiever.
Person starting over.
Person wondering what the hell comes next.
I've had careers I've loved and watched them change. Relationships and communities have shifted. I've made choices that felt completely right at one point in my life and questioned them later.
But through all of it, the motivation has remained remarkably consistent.
Psychology. Storytelling. Television.
Motherhood. Reinvention. Intuition.
Years of questioning my own life.
Eventually, I realized they weren't unrelated chapters at all.
They were all different expressions of the same curiosity.
And they've brought me here.
You are the expert on your own life.
My job is to get curious with you about your life, so you can begin to hear the part of you that already knows what feels right for YOU.
I'm fascinated by the conversation underneath the conversation.
I notice patterns. I ask a lot of questions. I'm interested in why we believe what we believe—and how those beliefs shape the lives we create.
I've also come to trust something that has always been a part of me:
I'm deeply intuitive about people.
I often sense what's underneath what's being said—the pattern, contradiction, feeling, or question that hasn't quite made its way into words yet.
That doesn't mean I know your truth.
I don’t.
But when I'm working with someone who genuinely wants to know themselves better—someone willing to be curious about their own assumptions, patterns, and beliefs— intuition becomes another part of the conversation.
I can reflect back what I'm hearing, ask a question that might not have occurred to you, and offer another way of looking at something you've seen the same way for a very long time.
SO, WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE TO DO THIS TOGETHER?
You don't need to come to me knowing exactly what' isn’t working.
You don't need to have a five-year plan.
And you definitely don't need to know what you want your life to look like instead.
You just need to be willing to get curious about the life you're already living.
Over three months and six one-on-one sessions, we'll look at the life you've created, the beliefs and expectations that helped shape it, what still feels true for you — and what perhaps doesn't anymore.
We'll pay attention to the places where something feels off, stuck, confusing, or simply no longer quite like you.
Not because those things necessarily need to change.
But because they deserve to be examined.
THREE MONTHS. SIX SESSIONS. ONE-ON-ONE.
This isn't a course to complete or a formula to follow
It's a series of honest conversations — with space between them to notice what comes up when you begin looking at your life differently.
We'll meet every other week for three months.
What we talk about will depend on you — your life, your questions, your relationships, your work, your beliefs, and the places where you find yourself wondering:
Do the different parts of my life actually feel like MINE?
There is a process guiding our work together, but there isn't a predetermined destination.
Because the goal isn't necessarily to come away with a new idea of what your life should look like.
It's for you to get clearer about the one you're already living.
SO, WHAT DO WE ACTUALLY DO?
We start by getting curious.
Our first session is just that— a conversation.
I want to get to know you. Where you are in your life right now. What brought you here. What feels good, what doesn't, and what you've been thinking about or questioning lately.
There isn't anything you need to prepare or figure out beforehand.
We start with where you are.
Between our first and second sessions, I'll give you a reflection exercise to take a deeper look at your own life.
You'll identify the things that matter to you, and look at two separate questions: how important each one is to you, and how present it actually is in your life right now.
How closely does the life you're living reflect what actually matters to you?
When we come back together for our second session, we'll look at what you noticed.
Where do the things you say matter most already show up in your life? Where might there be a gap? What surprised you? And what made you curious?
This is where the work starts.
DGAF
Over the course of the sessions that follow, there isn't a prescribed path or a set of steps we need to complete.
There is a framework underneath our work together — a way of returning to the questions that help you understand what matters, what doesn't, and what you want to do with what you discover.
You’ve already seen the questions that come from DGAF:
What is yours?
What is your current truth?
What, if anything, needs to shift?
What feels more right for now?
But what those questions lead us to will be different for everyone.
We might find ourselves talking about work. Relationships. Family. Identity. Goals. Expectations. A decision you're struggling with. Or something you didn't even realize was asking for your attention until we started talking about it.
THE FRAMEWORK STAYS THE SAME.
THE CONVERSATION EVOLVES.
MAYBE YOU’RE HERE BECAUSE…
Something in your life has been asking for attention.
Maybe you’re in the middle of a major life transition.
Or maybe nothing dramatic has happened at all.
Maybe you’re looking for direction. Questioning a relationship, a career, a role you’ve been playing, or a version of yourself that no longer quite fits.
Maybe your life looks perfectly good on paper — but something about it doesn’t feel entirely like yours.
And maybe you don’t even know what needs to change.
You just know you want to understand yourself — and your life — more clearly.
And that’s where these three months come in.
You may not leave with every answer.
But you will leave with a different way of looking at—and engaging with— your life.
You’ll have a clearer sense of what actually matters to you, a better understanding of the beliefs and expectations that have shaped your choices, and a more intentional way of making choices that reflect who you are and what matters to you now.
We may not always understand what our life is trying to tell us.
But we can learn how to listen to it.
READY TO GET CURIOUS?
If something you've read here has you wondering about your own life, maybe that's worth paying attention to.
I'm currently inviting a small number of people to be part of the first round of this three-month, one-on-one process.
Because this is the Beta round, I'm looking for people who are genuinely curious about themselves and willing to engage honestly with the process — and to share feedback with me along the way.
You don't need to know what you want to change—or even whether anything needs to change.
You just need to be curious enough to look.
If you’re interested or have questions, feel free to reach out and tell me a little about yourself.